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Living the Cliche - New Baby, New Perspective
April 12, 2022   |  Articles

Living the Cliché – New Baby, New Perspective

On Wednesday a few weeks ago, I got a very disappointing phone call.  The TEDx event that had selected me to speak was being canceled with no warning.  I had been really looking forward to becoming a TEDx speaker and had finally arrived at a draft of my script that I was genuinely happy with.  But I took that call while feeding my 5 week old son and as soon as we hung up, he started fussing.  Talk about an opportunity to put things into perspective!

I am sure that there will be many moments that crystallize my priorities but this was the first time since he was born that I really had a chance to see how my professional and personal identities have shifted.

Before my son, I would probably have taken a few days to mope about this sudden turn of events.  After the disappointment was out of my system, I would have started looking for ways to get back on the horse.  Since the TEDx event was in the same region as my in-laws’ previously scheduled beach week, I would have made the trip anyway.

Instead, the very first thing I did was focus on feeding and calming my baby.  Within a few hours, I had already reached out to kick start a new round of TEDx applications and was rearranging my travel plans.  I love my in-laws but a week at the beach alone isn’t quite enough motivation to get me on a plane with a 3.5 month old baby.  Of course, I also started telling friends and family that the talk had been canceled and acknowledged that I was disappointed.  But I quickly noticed that I was a lot less disappointed than I might have expected.

Although it has only been 5 weeks, motherhood seems to have given me a fresh serving of patience when it comes to my professional success.  I was surprised at how quickly I was living the cliché of shifting perspective.  5 weeks has been long enough to assure me that I *will* be returning to my consulting business.  Full time motherhood demands a type of single tracked focus that eludes me.  I miss the dynamic challenges of my business and the varied knots I get to untangle for my clients.  Yet the pressure to be maximally successful in minimal time seems to have faded from a ceaseless clammer to a dull roar in the background.

I still fully intend to deliver a TEDx talk, ideally in the 2022 calendar year.  But now, that is what feels most important – looking ahead to the future.  I am leaning into the silver lining of the simplified logistics this shift offers to both my personal life and my return to work.  I have no bandwidth to mope and moan.  Maybe, like the sleep deprivation, this perspective will be a temporary state but I like to think that this is a longer term change I will carry forward.  

Success, for my clients and for myself, remains a priority.  Add in motherhood and I am full up.  No time to whine, on to the next step.

So here I go.  For now, I will focus on helping my tiny new human develop the senses and skills he needs to thrive.  Soon, I will add in my return to work.  Eventually, I will stand on the TEDx stage.  All in due time with the quiet confidence that success across all fronts will come with patience and persistence.  

But if anyone knows a TEDx event looking for prepared speakers right now, please send them my way!

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